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Nerd Pride Radio The home of the Nerd Pride Radio podcast and other acts of nerdity. 2020-05-20T16:55:46-05:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/feed.php?f=5&t=3502 2020-05-20T16:55:46-05:00 2020-05-20T16:55:46-05:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=3502&p=58931#p58931 <![CDATA[Re: Relationships in Quarantine]]>
Anyway, it's also true that dealing with adversity together can help people seal a crack, or that this can go back and forth depending on circumstances. I think my parents might be going through a little bit of that where the normal pressures on them that are outside of their control feel more oppressive than usual, when there's no one else to turn to and they can't even see me. But then the strange circumstances cause them to dig down to past experiences they've had dealing with adversity, and they draw together in solidarity over it. So far they are in lockstep agreement that I am making poor grocery choices for them if left to my own devices: my lettuces are too fancy, my sauces are too mild, and I should be buying the version that is $0.40 cheaper rather than making arbitrary decisions about "higher quality".

I feel so bad for students who are having to deal with this at a time of life when it truly seems far more important for them to have a variety of social interactions with one another. Like I can be amused watching my neighbors play badminton, which suffices for a week's worth of social interaction, but the kids actually need to hang out with other kids or it's going to affect their brain development.

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2020-05-20T14:59:58-05:00 2020-05-20T14:59:58-05:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=3502&p=58930#p58930 <![CDATA[Re: Relationships in Quarantine]]> All but three of my hundred or so students are tired of this game and want to go back to campus.
They're getting on their parents' nerves and ...

Virtually all of the people I'm in touch with have adjusted their living capacities, by which I mean, folks in too crowded apartments went home to Mom's basement, and folks living solo moved in with the out-of-town fiance (remote work made this possible).
Meanwhile, my brother is thrilled to have his kids back home. The temporarily full nest is very gratifying to him.

It irritates me tremendously that in order to fill broadcast minutes (also magazine inches) writers attempt to generalize and box folks in as a substitute for insight. (Pardon my generalization of journalists, lol)

Huge stress or trauma makes some people fold inward, some people reach out. No insight there.
It causes things that are cracked to break. If Frank and Alice only remain married because Frank's at the bar and Alice is at church, taking those escapes away might just be the end, or might turn back the clock. From outside, it's really tough to tell what's going to happen.

Happiness is tough to measure, like everything else it's partly internal and partly environmental. I heard, in teacher training, that the ratio was ten to one. Ten attaboys erased one scolding. Having said that, apparently if you swat your hawk once during training, even unintentionally, it will never trust you again. We are bags of sloppy chemicals all doing the best we can.

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2020-05-19T18:25:29-05:00 2020-05-19T18:25:29-05:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=3502&p=58919#p58919 <![CDATA[Re: Relationships in Quarantine]]>
This piece is so confused... The thesis appears to be that she is concerned singles and couples are somehow being driven apart in their friendships because of their different living situations. Then she says all sorts of weird things implying that her coupled friends are supposed to be psychically aware of her needs and experiences. They may not ask questions that happen to strike her as inherently judgy, but should respond pre-emptively with the requisite level of support and validation - happy that she's alone, yet sympathetic to any possible unhappiness she has about being alone without suggesting that she should have any such unhappiness. However, she seems to realize that such judgments about other people's intentions are probably not a good idea. Maybe the thesis of the essay should be changed to something more like, "second-guessing our friends' intentions in a negative way is probably not good for the friendship, and this is true regardless of what kind of relationship or lack of relationship they are in!" Or: "Let's give our friends the benefit of the doubt before getting pissed off at them for no good reason!" Maybe I'm just touchy on the subject, who knows.

However, I read the piece because the general subject is very interesting to me. I've been having some video conferences with people who are both quarantining together with a partner, and quarantining very much alone for a long time. It's hard on both in different ways sometimes, but I am particularly worried about the ones who are alone, particularly older people or those whose health conditions make them more vulnerable to suffering the worst effects of covid, or just generally being sick from some other reason but not having access to people who can take care of them. I spend about 90% of my time taking care of other people, and though I'm probably not the greatest nurse, it puts you in a frame of mind to be very worried about people who seem to need to have someone to take care of them but do not have such a person. Or even people like my parents who are couples, yet face difficulties in taking care of one another without some additional outside help. There are so many people in this situation; how are they getting by? And this is all before thinking about any financial pressures they might be under. I need to stop thinking about these things because it's making the headache worse.

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2020-04-01T13:29:43-05:00 2020-04-01T13:29:43-05:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=3502&p=57902#p57902 <![CDATA[Re: Relationships in Quarantine]]> Statistics: Posted by Phoebe — Wed Apr 01, 2020 1:29 pm


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2020-04-01T09:53:13-05:00 2020-04-01T09:53:13-05:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=3502&p=57900#p57900 <![CDATA[Re: Relationships in Quarantine]]> -retaining wall site excavated, blocks laid, gravel and dirt moved to fill in
-back yard tilled and raked
-both areas sown in grass and covered with wheat straw
-back is still recovering

logged some time playing Betrayal at House on the Hill and some Fallout4

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2020-03-31T18:27:25-05:00 2020-03-31T18:27:25-05:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=3502&p=57893#p57893 <![CDATA[Re: Relationships in Quarantine]]> Statistics: Posted by akiva — Tue Mar 31, 2020 6:27 pm


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2020-03-30T17:05:45-05:00 2020-03-30T17:05:45-05:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=3502&p=57870#p57870 <![CDATA[Re: Relationships in Quarantine]]> Statistics: Posted by Phoebe — Mon Mar 30, 2020 5:05 pm


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2020-03-30T17:00:34-05:00 2020-03-30T17:00:34-05:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=3502&p=57869#p57869 <![CDATA[Re: Relationships in Quarantine]]> Statistics: Posted by Phoebe — Mon Mar 30, 2020 5:00 pm


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2020-03-30T09:52:56-05:00 2020-03-30T09:52:56-05:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=3502&p=57861#p57861 <![CDATA[Re: Relationships in Quarantine]]> Statistics: Posted by Tahlvin — Mon Mar 30, 2020 9:52 am


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2020-03-30T09:08:58-05:00 2020-03-30T09:08:58-05:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=3502&p=57858#p57858 <![CDATA[Re: Relationships in Quarantine]]> Statistics: Posted by akiva — Mon Mar 30, 2020 9:08 am


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2020-03-29T23:24:00-05:00 2020-03-29T23:24:00-05:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=3502&p=57854#p57854 <![CDATA[Re: Relationships in Quarantine]]> Statistics: Posted by Phoebe — Sun Mar 29, 2020 11:24 pm


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2020-03-29T22:38:42-05:00 2020-03-29T22:38:42-05:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=3502&p=57852#p57852 <![CDATA[Relationships in Quarantine]]> Statistics: Posted by Phoebe — Sun Mar 29, 2020 10:38 pm


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