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Nerd Pride Radio The home of the Nerd Pride Radio podcast and other acts of nerdity. 2018-06-21T18:29:32-06:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/feed.php?f=5&t=2241 2018-06-21T18:29:32-06:00 2018-06-21T18:29:32-06:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=2241&p=39550#p39550 <![CDATA[Re: Would you have another kid?]]> If you feel you are a perfect parent, you likely have a bad memory.

You don't get the kid you envisioned (some assembly required), and you have the choice to love the one you got, or wish s/he were different. (There's an autism advocate who says "...one day we will cease to be, and strangers you can love will move in behind our faces.")

You don't get the minutes you want; you get work or privation or smothering. S/he needs you when you're not prepared. You need her/him when s/he's otherwise occupied.

Life is a multiple choice question, and sometimes there's not a good 'none of the above' within reach.

So, while everyone who wishes they were a better parent isn't already good; they at least recognize how important and difficult the task is.

Kids need people to raise them (see King Frederick )
To not do your best, whatever is thrust upon you, is selfish. To worry that it's too much or beyond you, or not a task for everyone is realistic. To wonder how good a job you're doing, probably a good sign.

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2018-06-21T10:33:01-06:00 2018-06-21T10:33:01-06:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=2241&p=39522#p39522 <![CDATA[Re: Would you have another kid?]]> Statistics: Posted by Phoebe — Thu Jun 21, 2018 11:33 am


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2018-06-21T06:55:09-06:00 2018-06-21T06:55:09-06:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=2241&p=39513#p39513 <![CDATA[Re: Would you have another kid?]]>
I also would adopt, but she is not willing to go back to square one.

I suppose it is easier for me to accept the idea because the greater burden of childcare would fall on her and not myself since I have the full time job.

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2018-06-07T18:00:11-06:00 2018-06-07T18:00:11-06:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=2241&p=38967#p38967 <![CDATA[Re: Would you have another kid?]]>
Perhaps one day, we'd think about fostering someone. But that depends on obtaining a lot of other skills and ensuring that our boys have solid lives of their own.

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2018-06-06T22:34:29-06:00 2018-06-06T22:34:29-06:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=2241&p=38941#p38941 <![CDATA[Re: Would you have another kid?]]>
The long answer: I absolutely LOVE being a parent. I love, love, love it. However, my kid is a perfect fit for my parenting style and that't not always the case and so I'm afraid of not being able to replicate the results. Also, mental illness runs pretty heavily in my family and while my daughter seems to have dodged that bullet, the stats are not looking good for any other potential children of mine. Roughly 1/3 of the females on my mother's side have some sort of bipolar/depression/anxiety combo and typically have a fairly early onset. So I'd rather not bring a human being into the world knowing they could suffer as much as family members of mine have.

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2018-06-05T21:19:35-06:00 2018-06-05T21:19:35-06:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=2241&p=38914#p38914 <![CDATA[Re: Would you have another kid?]]> I confess, while watching the Bio 101 video where the single cell creature becomes two single cell creatures, I was rooting for the new cell, fresh despite it's apparent identical-ness, heading out for it's own section of the petri dish to begin it's new life as a pediatrician or something.
I failed to consider whether the reduced, amputated, original cell felt anything at the loss of a good portion of its plasma. Fully understanding that every machine of the cell is specifically designed in support of this launch, it now occurs to me that I should have paid a bit more attention.

Andrew Solomonis a writer and lecturer I admire who talks about how parenthood is more joy, and perhaps less happiness, but he doesn't really engage on this moment of flight. I suspect his children are still too young. This is my second go at it, and I'm getting worse at it instead of better. I'm not sure I will survive the third. Except for that, there is nothing so daunting and terrifying and wonderful as parenting. If it was only the very act of being taught that it isn't about me - which some people sadly never learn- it's worth it.

This week, I sent (after dysfunctionally following her as far as Chicago) my newly minted middle-child Dr. to the west coast to begin her residency. It would have hurt less to sacrifice a limb.
Of course, I can't put that on facebook. For my daughter's benefit, I am 100 percent joyful in her independence, (We don't consider the phantom pain, which can't be real anyway.)

If you can, call your Dad; don't wait for the holiday.

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2018-06-01T22:17:24-06:00 2018-06-01T22:17:24-06:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=2241&p=38793#p38793 <![CDATA[Re: Would you have another kid?]]> Statistics: Posted by Walrus — Fri Jun 01, 2018 11:17 pm


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2018-06-01T22:04:28-06:00 2018-06-01T22:04:28-06:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=2241&p=38792#p38792 <![CDATA[Re: Would you have another kid?]]> Statistics: Posted by Mike — Fri Jun 01, 2018 11:04 pm


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2018-06-01T21:51:50-06:00 2018-06-01T21:51:50-06:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=2241&p=38790#p38790 <![CDATA[Re: Would you have another kid?]]> Statistics: Posted by Walrus — Fri Jun 01, 2018 10:51 pm


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2018-06-01T20:07:17-06:00 2018-06-01T20:07:17-06:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=2241&p=38788#p38788 <![CDATA[Re: Would you have another kid?]]> Statistics: Posted by bralbovsky — Fri Jun 01, 2018 9:07 pm


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2018-06-01T15:44:17-06:00 2018-06-01T15:44:17-06:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=2241&p=38780#p38780 <![CDATA[Re: Would you have another kid?]]> Statistics: Posted by bralbovsky — Fri Jun 01, 2018 4:44 pm


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2018-06-01T14:57:32-06:00 2018-06-01T14:57:32-06:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=2241&p=38779#p38779 <![CDATA[Re: Would you have another kid?]]> Statistics: Posted by Kyle — Fri Jun 01, 2018 3:57 pm


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2018-06-01T14:31:29-06:00 2018-06-01T14:31:29-06:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=2241&p=38778#p38778 <![CDATA[Re: Would you have another kid?]]> Statistics: Posted by bralbovsky — Fri Jun 01, 2018 3:31 pm


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2018-06-01T08:39:12-06:00 2018-06-01T08:39:12-06:00 https://nerdprideradio.com/nerds/viewtopic.php?t=2241&p=38749#p38749 <![CDATA[Re: Would you have another kid?]]> Statistics: Posted by Phoebe — Fri Jun 01, 2018 9:39 am


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