Thinking back on the life trajectories of people who were bullied or suffered in childhood because they were too smart, or too creative, or too different, or too fashion-challenged, or too damn nice to hurt other people to fend them off in self-defense... whatever the reason, this childhood suffering did things to them. Some of them appear to have fled physically - like moved three states away and developed a radically different sort of life from what their childhood experience was like. I swear half the reason to be on facebook is to see the VICTORY of some of these people - like this one woman who was bullied constantly in high school (and surely before that, at some other school besides mine), she's now this dazzling socialite in L.A. and every time I see a picture an internal cheering banana
fires off because damn, I hope everyone can see her now.But so many of my friends - the "gifted" kids, the nerds, the weirdos, the abject, the rejected - fell down a much harsher path. They internalized all that hostility and fought self-doubt for years. They never thought they were worth anything even though they were bursting with talent and compassion and goodness. Others did drugs, so many drugs! Dropped out of school. Struggled through bad relationships, all kinds of problems. What if we had cradled these children in joy and comfort throughout their school years? What if we sent the clear message that making a beautiful painting or being kind to people or having the best score on the math test was in fact JUST as celebration-worthy as scoring a touchdown? Because I'm not sure many of my friends ever got that message, except maybe from parents or a few other friends who weren't any better off in terms of being tormented by the nonsense of the grade school social world. I feel very lucky, somehow the genius of my parents and also grandparents was to make me feel safe and separate from all of that crap, and like I was on a road of my own making regardless of the petty cruelties and violence of the childhood world. I laugh because I'm talking like it's some horror movie, but, well...
Statistics: Posted by Phoebe — Fri Sep 14, 2018 9:17 pm
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We are recording episode 2 on Wednesday (and it will be published soon after) it will be part one of Toxic Friendships.
So glad to hear it spoke to you and we look forward to your thoughts.
Sawah
Statistics: Posted by Sawah — Mon Aug 20, 2018 11:40 am
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It will eventually be available through itunes. We use Anchor to record and host and they are working to get their podcasts onto itunes right now. I will let you all know when that happens. Thanks for your interest in checking us out
-Sawah
Statistics: Posted by Sawah — Mon Aug 20, 2018 10:51 am
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Statistics: Posted by poorpete — Wed Aug 15, 2018 2:00 pm
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Bicoastal Disorder with SBH and Sawah is available on the following platforms:
Anchor:
https://anchor.fm/bicoastal-disorder
Google Podcasts:
https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aH ... Nhc3QvcnNz
Spotify:
https://open.spotify.com/show/2m0GOKgPOjTwCo8LC1nVB5
Breaker:
https://www.breaker.audio/bicoastal-disorder
Pocketcasts: (My podcatcher of choice)
https://pca.st/MWSi
Radio Public:
https://play.radiopublic.com/bicoastal-disorder-GE27JN
Stitcher:
https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/anchor ... l-disorder
Thank you for the sweet words and I hope that this is a long and fruitful partnership! Thrilled to be part of the NPN and official quality nerds
Cheers,
Sawah (and by extension, because we are Ameobas, SBH)
Statistics: Posted by Mike — Wed Aug 15, 2018 1:06 pm
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